You may have been checking out the information page about my course How to Lead a Gentle Life and wondering whether you should sign up to it. You’re interested in the concept but is a 5 week course going to change anything, is it the right time now and how valuable will it be?
If you haven’t heard about How to Lead a Gentle Life Course click through to read the information page and see what it’s all about.
I’m covering some of the questions that might be around for you in the hope that it’s a useful discussion to start as to whether the course is right for you – you only want to be on it if it’s right for you and I only want you on it if you feel it’s the right place so then it’s win win.
1. I’m really busy – is it the right time?
I’ve covered this in the FAQs on the information page but it really warrants looking at because it’s important.
As I said there only you can tell if you’re in the right space (figuratively and literally) to join a course at the moment. Making a commitment to do something (and paying for it!) means you’re making a promise to yourself that something will change and that you want something to change. What that change is at the moment you may not know, but you’re aware that something doesn’t feel right, or great, or OK and you want it to.
The thing is, we will always have other commitments; things to keep us busy and demands on our time. Especially if we’re the kind of person that lives in this way anyway – we find it very hard to stop, without something or someone to help us change it.
Making a decision to spend time looking at what exactly it is that makes us this way (busy, over committed, always tired), how we’ve benefitted from it (because there will always be a benefit, otherwise we wouldn’t be doing it) and how it does not serve us, is exactly what will help to break the cycle.
Of course, if you’re squeezing in that time in between a million other things where there really is no space – please don’t do it. Wait. Plan to make room for the next course – I would love you to join then.
But if you’re aware that some of your busy time is actually a little more aimless (scrolling?), wasteful (that sounds judgemental – it’s not – this is me too), and adjustable then come, join.
Because that’s exactly what we discover slap bang in the first week when you’re asked to look at what stops you being gentle, and exactly what we then get you to focus on for positive change throughout the course.
2. 5 weeks feels too long / too short
The course is 5 weeks long because each week is tailored to our mindset change – from awareness, to analysis, to adjustment to achievement.
Having previously only run for 4 weeks, following feedback from the first course I then added the final week to have additional formal time for planning to move forward.
It could be argued that 5 weeks is definitely not long enough to do this for a lifetime of change, but the way that the activities are structured is such that they provide a foundation of awareness and change and high quality support for you to move through each stage.
Previous course participants are messaging me even now to say they’re still discovering, still learning, always holding the concept in mind now.
Where before it was a nice thing to have and dream about, they each now have a clear idea of their version of gentle the steps they will always want to take to stay on that path going forward.
This feels like such a wonderful outcome, and I’m as excited as them to continue to watch them grow in their journeys.
3. Can an online course really change anything?
Since the advent of Skype (actually Zoom – and ok, ok, internet in general) we – meaning clients and especially their therapists, coaches, practitioners – are used to accessing services online. It’s a way to access recommended specialists not in your area and to potentially get their support at reduced rates in group programmes as opposed to more expensive one-to-one’s. But do you actually learn anything and does anything actually change?
Yes, and yes.
I’ve downloaded online courses and never looked at them. Why? Because I thought I needed them but didn’t really know how to use them, there was no-one guiding me through the process, I didn’t hold myself accountable, nor was accountable to anyone else for the changes I might have been making.
The gentle life course is not simply a downloadable online course and you’re not doing it alone.
In fact, you get a lot of access to me (in the private coaching sessions, the group coaching sessions, the community space and on email) and your fellow group members.
It’s the best of both worlds – you don’t have to go anywhere to access the course, the expert and the group, and you have the luxury of taking that back into your daily life to think about, test out and see the outcomes. Plus all the materials are still downloadable.
You learn also how to be self disciplined in your accountability – I won’t tell you off if you haven’t done something you said you wanted to do. I’ll ask you good, difficult questions yes, which is much more powerful to getting you on board with whatever change you wanted to make.
You also learn the essence of the gentle message in this process too – to bring kindness, compassion and calm to yourself in your change process. To bring that to others too (the group, your family, whomever you choose), and to truly learn the difference it makes to be gentle.